For some reason I can’t even explain, I’ve always said Thanksgiving is not a holiday I feel connected to…until now. You see, even though I’ve never hosted a Thanksgiving feast, I’ve always attended one. It’s usually over at my sister’s who loves to entertain and always has the best and most delicious concoctions for any feast. This year, however, she’s not around and for the past couple of weeks, I’ve had this strange feeling, a kind of empty feeling every time I thought about what we’d do to celebrate Thanksgiving, which is weird because didn’t I start all this by saying that I don’t feel a connection to this holiday?
At first I thought we would just ignore it, but then a couple of things happened that made me change my mind. One was I realized my daughter, Vanessa, is old enough to kind of understand what Thanksgiving is about. Moreover, that’s all they talked about in her preschool last week. Being the extremely inquisitive child she is, I thought I wouldn’t know how to answer her questions if we decided to ignore the holiday.
The second was a conversation I had with my mom about the whole issue when she asked me what we were doing for Thanksgiving and I said: nada. She told me I couldn’t do that and then went on to enumerate the reasons why. And the main reason was that even though we are Peruvian and Thanksgiving is not a holiday we knew anything of when we moved here, both my children were born in the United States. This is their birthplace. We live here. And just as I’m teaching them to love, cherish and enjoy their Latino heritage, I should do the same with their American one. Once again, she’s totally right!
Truth is that if I’m trying to raise my kids bilingual and bi-cultural that means two languages and two cultures, right?
The first thing I did was start talking to Vanessa about the crafts she was bringing home from preschool. A turkey, a Pilgrim’s hat, a cornucopia. We talked about what they meant and I tried to explain why we celebrate Thanksgiving. Then I told her we were going to have a fiesta at home just the four of us and that I needed her help to make it happen. She was really excited.
Next was the menu. Although I try, I’m no cook – as most of you know by now – so that was one big hurdle I had to overcome. I didn’t want it to be a disaster, so I cheated and I got the turkey at the store and we’ll be having some traditional and some not so traditional trimmings that we’ll be making soon: white rice, a yummy salad with caramelized walnuts and my favorite: mashed yams! For dessert, I’m going completely Caribbean and I’m making my mother-in-law’s delicious Flan de Queso – wish me luck!
Finally, every night I’ve been reading Pat Mora’s latest book called “Thanks/Gracias” to Vanessa. (By the way, you can go over to SpanglishBabyFinds to read more about it and to enter a giveaway.) Its simple sentences have made it easy for my three-year-old to understand that, like the little boy in the book, she has many reasons to be thankful.
Here are some of the ones she’s come up with:
- Por mi hermanito que ya nació - For my baby brother who was finally born.
- Por mi papito que me hizo un avioncito – For my Daddy who made me a little paper plane.
- Por la luna y los angelitos – For the moon and the little angels.
- Por mi mamá que me dió una manzanita – For my Mom who gave me an apple.
I also have many reasons to be thankful for this Thanksgiving and one of them is for the awesome community created through SpanglishBaby. I’m pretty sure I can speak for Ana Lilian when I say mil gracias for being a part of it and for sharing your stories, thoughts and questions with all of us who are raising bilingual and bi-cultural children. It has been an awesome ten months.
¡Feliz Día de Acción de Gracias!
¡Feliz Día de Acción de Gracias! I really enjoyed this post. Thanks for sharing!
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Great posting Rox! Happy Thanksgiving! guardame un pedasito de Flan.
Gracias, tocaya!!! Y Feliz Culmple!!! Espero que la pases genial!!!
Roxana: I am so glad that you listen to your mother……Have a very
happy Thanksgiving with Jose and my grandkids. Sorry I can’t
be with you, I’ll miss you. God bless you…mama
Ma,
Nosotros también te extrañamos!!!!
Si, good thing you listen to your Mama! Plus it’s just good to talk about all the things for which we are thankful.
I’m surprised at you, this holiday seems to be the easiest for Latinos to assimilate because it involves eating! And it’s so great how we personalize it by adding our own traditions. Growing up we didn’t have T-dinner without frijoles fritos, arroz, and sometimes, tamales! Yum.
This year for the 4 of us, T-dinner included salmon, acorn squash, stuffing, mashed potatoes, cranberry sauce, green salad, deli-sliced turkey, and pumpkin pie that Papi y Penny made. Maybe next year we’ll make tamales.
¿Cómo quedó el pumpkin pie? I bet it was delish…
I guess the best part of the whole Thanksgiving thing is that we’ve all been talking about everything we’re thankful for, and as you said, it’s good to do that! Maybe one day me atreveré a hacer un pavo…
What a great post! It is hard to get into new traditions that aren’t ours but the way you easily started doing it sounds sooooo nice! Congrats! I will definitely keep this in mind. Happy Thanksgiving!
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Thanks, Dariela. I debated a bit about whether I should write about it or not. I mean, I’ve lived in this country for more than half my life, but somehow Thanksgiving was not something I felt connected to. Well, we had an awesome time yesterday, just the four of us and we turned it into a fiesta both my little ones enjoyed – con baile y todo, just to prove how thankful we are to be alive
Roxi: I loved your Thanksgiving post! this is still relevant, as we’re just ending the holiday weekend. So true – mom is always right. I missed you guys so much this time around; I do love cooking Thanksgiving meal. Thanks for thinking it’s delicious – as my dad used to say – “that’s because it’s made with love.” I do remember you always telling me that Thanksgiving isn’t a top holiday to celebrate on your list. Secretly, I always thought that would change once you had kids. Let’s not forget that our dad probably didn’t “believe” in the holiday per se, but he always cooked this meal for us because I think tha for him, it was another opportunity to have his family together united by good food (typical of our culture). Do you realize I’ve been celebrating Thanksgiving for MOST of my life now? And you’re right, we owe it to our children to teach them about their American culture. I cherish and enjoy planning Thanksgiving with my daughter and your ahijada, Veronika. It’s a bonding tradition that will last a lifetime.