It was a lovely sight. A dozen children, most of them preschoolers, all speaking Spanish — and some English – in the backyard of my house. I hadn’t hosted a meetup for my bilingual playgroup in a long, long time. And I’m so happy I finally did.
We’re about to celebrate our three year anniversary as a group and I can honestly say that the friendships both my children and I have made because of it are priceless. I was lucky to join the group as it was being formed and got to attend the first meetup ever back in June 2008. At the time, I only had Vanessa who was almost 2 years old. The organizer’s daughter and mine hit it right off and became instant friends.
I use to assist and organize tons of meetups at the beginning because I was a SAHM, just starting to research this whole blogging thing in preparation of what eventually became SpanglishBaby. I had a ton of time in my hands and I’m so grateful I happened to find a group like this online. Not only have I met all kinds of wonderful people, but I’ve ensured that my bilingual and bicultural children have friends who are growing up just like them.
We’ve written before about the power and importance of playgroups, but just to bring the point home even further, I wanted to share with you what one of the moms in our group – for whom Spanish is not a native language, but is raising two bilingual and bicultural daughters together with her Mexican husband – wrote about the recent meetup at my house:
I was ecstatic when I read my friend’s update on Facebook because, in the end, that is what the whole point of our playgroup is all about. If only we could do it more often. Vanessa hasn’t refused to speak Spanish yet, and I’m praying to all the gods that she never does. But I know that the possibility lurks right around the corner as she starts her all-English journey the first of August when she begins Kindergarten. I know I’ll have to rely much heavier on my playgroup to help make sure she still has exposure to Spanish in a playful setting and not just at home with us.
Finally, I also wanted to share a little anecdote about how connected our bilingual and bicultural children feel when they meet others like them. Vanessa attended summer camp at the same preschool she’s been going to for the past three years. This time around she lucked out and had a bilingual and bicultural girl – that we’ve known outside the school, but haven’t really frequented that much – in her class. When I went to pick her up after her first day at the camp, her teacher told me Vanessa and her friend had spent all day speaking Spanish, in their own little world. I was ecstatic. And then, in the car on the way home, Vanessa revealed the news like it was the best thing that had happened to her in a long time. I was even more ecstatic.
Vanessa’s friend and her mom – who’s my friend – were over at our house for the meetup we recently hosted. When I told the mom about Vanessa’s excitement regarding her daughter, she told me her daughter felt exactly the same. There’s just something about realizing you’re not alone in this bilingual and bicultural journey!
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So true! My trilingual “baby” from birth ( from monolingual parents) is almost 11 and playgroups and dear friends that speak the other tongues are sooo important.
I have been writing a 3 part series on how we have successfully raised a fluent-as-a-native trilterate ( ours in Mandarin/Spanish/English) and one of the keys is absolutely doing play groups and connecting to like minded bilingual folks.
http://www.soultravelers3.com/2010/07/schools-out-forever-expat-immersion-spanish-in-spain-digital-nomad-education-for-kids-who-travel.html
We actually started this when kiddo was still in the womb when language learning starts.
We were also thrilled to find a family from Mexico who lives by us when we are in Asia for her to immerse in her Mandarin. They love having their own “private” language together and finding Spanish speakers there is very hard.
Thanks for your comment, Jeanne! And for the link to your series. I’ll be sure to read it!
I’ve visited your blog before and I think what you are doing is amazing! I wish we could do something similar one of these days!! You’re daughter is lucky to have parents who realize the importance of multiculturalism and mulitlingualism!
The importance of this playgroup Spanish Speaking Bilingual Tots goes even farther of language for me. I joined this group almost 3 years ago. I was desperate looking for Spanish Speaking Friends for me. My son was 3 months old, so my focus was actually to find people that feels the same as me. And OMG, I found the perfect support group, not only friends, after 3 years I can say they are family. The way Vanessa felt, probably it is the same way I feel when I hear someone speaking Spanish. You get so excited that finally someone speaks the same language as you. My son is 3 years old now. And I can see my son prefers English already, so having this wonderful playgroup helps me feel more in touch with my culture and helps him to understand that there are 2 languages.
How wonderful you found that source of support for you! I think feeling that sense of support, just to keep going when it gets hard at times and not give up, is the most important thing.
I can’t believe Osso was only 3 months old when we met each other! Cómo ha pasado el tiempo!!! You’re right about everything you say. I feel exactly the same way about our playgroup!
Love hearing these stories from bi-cultural and bilingual parents. One day I hope to bring up children who are proud to be bilingual or trilingual if they opt to learn a third language fluently in our ever increasing diverse society.
Three cheers for our bilingual proud families and moms!!
I agree with all of you. Amanda, my 4 years old, prefers English too, but she gets so excited every time we go to or host an activity with our Spanish Speaking Bilingual Tots group. I love to see how proud she is to know another language and I know that our play group has lots to do with that. She loves her Spanish friends, and I’m glad to be part of this group, to make the language learning process a fun journey for her.
Y ahora hay que hacer lo mismo con el hermanito de Amanda!!! I’m so glad to hear from more of you about what our playgroup means!!
We are SUPER lucky to have an automatic “playgroup” in lots of cousins similar ages. If we didn’t live close to them I would definitely find or start a playgroup. It’s amazing how quickly my son learns things from other kids, and how much he enjoys it!
That’s awesome, Beth! I wish my kids had more of their cousins around, but the majority of them live in either Peru or Puerto Rico. They only have 2 here, so it’s definitely not the same as a playgroup of friends!!
As much as I love the playgroups as stated above, I also want to say that they were VERY hard for me when my child was a baby to preschooler. Wonderful people, but the whole point of the group was to create an all Spanish environment for the kids.
Almost everyone was a native speaker in Spanish from other countries…and then there was me…who got A’s on Spanish long ago, but can’t speak it.
I’d defeat the whole purpose of being there if I spoke in English, so that left me very isolated. Great for my child, but hard for Mom. My husband would go sometimes as he at least speaks some Spanish and understands most, but I had to go the most because I had the most time.
Most could also speak English well, but they preferred to speak Spanish since it was their native tongue, which is understandable.
So it really worked wonderfully for my daughter, but I would be lying if I didn’t add that it was a major sacrifice for mom. I loved the people we met, so happy they had our same goals, but as a monolingual raising a trilingual, these things will be more challenging than for a bilingual.
I will never be as fluent in Spanish or Mandarin as my child is, so I will always be left out of that part of her, but I am still so grateful that I have given that to her. I see already how much it has enriched her life and know she will have an easier time passing all 3 languages onto her children!
Jeanne, thanks for letting us hear about you! I am really thinking about taking the plunge and get my son into Mandarin. It’s one thing raising him bilingual when my husband is a native speaker in one language and I in the other. Neither of us has any Chinese connections. Also I know my husband is supportive of the idea but I will have to do all the leg work on this one. Here in Houston the Chinese community center offers affordable classes — one being a family class that I can take with him so at least I can be trying although I am sure he will go way beyond me (just have to wait for him to turn 4 before we can start!). Also we live very close to Chinatown. So I think it can be done. As you say it will be a challenge. But I think it’s worth a good effort. Being trilingual in Spanish, English and Mandarin would be a really good combination for him as an adult. What little I know of Mandarin, the structure is very different from European-based languages, so I think it’s even more important getting him started early to help his brain grasp it more easily. Mostly I think living here & dealing with the horrible traffic & air pollution, we might as well get something out of it, tapping into what the city has to offer with the diverse ethnic communities here!
It’s great to hear your story! Quite inspiring!
I’m part of a play group with a few other mothers and every two weeks we meet in the Playground during the Summer. Kids not only enjoy being with their friends, but they also do learn from one another. One of the girls taught my daughter how to ride a scooter.
Aside from the kids, we the mothers enjoy our time together too. We share stories and ideas, talk about schooling and compare notes.
That’s great, Edna! Would you mind sharing your playgroup’s information? Maybe some other moms in the area are looking for something similar and they’d be interesting in joininig…
We live in Staten Island, New York. Our group is not bilingual, except for me. But we are mothers of small children from 3 – 6 years.
Quisiera saber algunas sugerencias de como incentivar a los niños a hablar solo español durante estos encuentros para jugar, porque con frecuencia su uno de los niños (el que sabe menos español) empieza a hablar en ingles, los demás responden en ingles tambien. No les resultará molesto que les repitan “español por favor”. Gracias
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I would be interested in starting a Spanish playgroup in East LA/Alhambra California area. I am also looking to start a Sign Language group with babies and siblings. Let me know if you are interested.
I am having the first meeting for Mandarin group this Sunday, May 22 in Alhambra. Let me know if you are interested.
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