The following post was originally published on September 18, 2009 under the title “How To Create a Perceived Need for the Minority Language.”
My 18-year-old goddaughter, Veronika, was recently in town for the weekend and I noticed something pretty interesting that I’m still trying to figure out.
Although she was raised bilingual by my (Peruvian) sister and her father, who is Cuban, (but moved to New York as a toddler and thus speaks more English than Spanish,) ever since I can remember, we have always communicated in English. I mean, I know she understands Spanish, but when I talk to her, she has always answered me in English–no matter which language I use.
So, I was pretty surprised when I noticed that whenever she talked to my daughter, her cousin Vanessa, she addressed her in Spanish. Why? I didn’t really get around to asking her, but I think it’s because she probably thinks–rightly so–that Vanessa understands Spanish better, unlike everyone else in our bilingual family.
I guess the interesting thing about this anecdote is that even though, growing up, Veronika basically refused to speak Spanish, the fact that we all continued talking to her in the minority language, somehow paid-off. (I should mention, though, that it has also helped that her boyfriend’s first language–as well as his family’s–is Spanish, meaning that she’s been forced to speak it in order to communicate with them.)
Either way, all this got me thinking about how the topic of how to get your children to speak the minority language continues to be one of the most popular ones since we started SpanglishBaby more than half a year ago. The evidence is in the questions we continue to get for our Ask an Expert series, including this week’s question, the comments in the forums and just the stuff we hear whenever the subject of raising bilingual kids comes up.
One of the main things to do, according to bilingual experts, is to create a perceived need for the minority language. In other words, your children HAVE to feel as if they NEED to speak the minority language in order to communicate. So, how do you do this? Here are some tips:
1) Show them you’re proud of minority language + culture: If your children see you take pride in your language and your culture, they will follow suit. I saw this happen before my very own eyes with my stepson. His father, my husband, is extremely proud to be Puerto Rican. He has always spoken highly of his beloved Island, its music, its food, its folklore. He owns a vast collection of Puerto Rican music which he plays on a regular basis. My stepson, although born and raised in Miami, has always identified himself with his father’s home country.
2) Give your friends and your kids’ friends a taste of the minority culture: This goes along with the first tip, except it takes it a little farther. Now, and until October 15th, it’s the perfect time to do this by celebrating Hispanic Heritage Month with a party–especially if you happen to be from one of the countries which celebrates its Independence during this time. You could serve traditional food from your Latin American country and teach the children a few words in Spanish. Again, if your children see that you’re proud of your heritage, they will be too!
3) Invite your family/friends who speak the minority language to stay with you: This works well especially if there are children involved. My cousin, her husband and their 10-year-old daughter are coming from Mexico to spend Christmas with us this year, and I couldn’t be happier. Not only do I get to see them and show-off Colorado’s winter wonderland, but my daughter, Vanessa, will spend about 10 days surrounded by Spanish coming from people other than her father and I. In other words, she’ll experience first-hand how important it is for her to speak Spanish, so she can communicate with her family.
4) Expose your children to the minority language + culture first-hand: Traveling to a country where the minority language is spoken is probably one of the best ways to create a perceived need. Although it’s sad that both my husband’s and my family is dispersed in different Latin American countries, it does gives us the opportunity to go visit them, allowing our daughter to be immersed in the language while spending time with her family. Our plans are that once Vanessa is old enough, she will spend her summers with her cousins in Puerto Rico. We did this with my now 19-year-old stepson as he was growing up, and I’m convinced this is one of the major reasons he is bilingual today. Not only will this kind of trip help reinforce the minority language, but Vanessa will get to experience the culture of her father first-hand.
In which creative ways do you help your child feel she needs to speak the minority language?
I definitely agree with the perceived need idea. Our kids had no reason to want to speak spanish, except we had friends and family come from Bolivia for weeks at a time that only spoke spanish.
And with our baby, we’ve been speaking mostly spanish…and happily, his first word (besides, ma) was in spanish (pa…pajaro), so I tell my other kids Diego only speaks spanish. (To which my older son says, “Well, I’ll teach him English.”) But when we are with their little friends, I introduce them to Diego and say the same thing and they start breaking out what little spanish they know. and asking “how do you say….in spanish?” Plus kids don’t have a fear of talking to a baby in spanish. This encourages my own children and makes them feel proud that they can speak spanish to their brother.
I love your blog and all your tips and they’ve really helped us to remember how important being bilingual is and passing that on to our kids.