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By: tati

tati — Thu, 05 Mar 2009 03:55:56 +0000

We are teaching our daughters Spanish even if it is our second language. I thought about this a lot and did not want them to learn my grammatical errors and mispronunciation sometimes. But then I thought there are a lot more benefits to teaching them. If they learn a few mistakes, they can correct them when they are older. I think that having the husband and wife speak the language really helps the kids really use it. I think if only one parent uses it, sometimes the kids get more confused or will not respond in both language. But I would do whatever works for you family! I really believe you have to make the decision at what feels comfortable and good for you! tati’s last blog post..Story Telling Activity

By: AnaGloria Rodriguez

AnaGloria Rodriguez — Tue, 03 Mar 2009 05:20:19 +0000

I completely agree with everyone’s post. Encouraging my husband to speak his “mocho” Spanish gives my children the idea that speaking Spanish is important. Absolutely his Spanish has gotten better since our children were born and he’s been reading their children’s books to them in Spanish.
Also, children don’t learn language “perfectly” the first time, so why not give adults learning a language a break?

By: Mary

Mary — Tue, 03 Mar 2009 04:52:42 +0000

Chicas, thank you so much for taking the time to give me your opinions. As I can see, pretty much everybody is in the same page. I think is great that some of you are going through the same as me. Before my baby was born. I thought it was going to be a piece of cake all this new things of being bilingual. Well it turned out that it was not as easy as I thought. Like Carrie, I also struggled to keep 100% Spanish from my side. But you girls made me think. My English is not great either and I allow my self to speak it to my son. So why not my husband. I’ll keep checking in to see what else you girls have to say.

By: Keen

Keen — Tue, 03 Mar 2009 00:54:35 +0000

I'm loving all the comments too, because in the same situation. The conventional wisdom seemed to be, DON'T let your husband speak less-than-fluent Spanish to your kids, and I had a hard time with it at first. Well, he does, and it's not an issue at all! He enjoys it tremendously, for one thing, and as several commenters have stated, his Spanish has improved so much since we had kids!. Also, my boys aren't really fooled for a minute and they know English is Daddy's language around here. As Carrie said, it's really amazing how they figure it out with no explanation. Keen’s last blog post..Copos

By: Ana Lilian

Ana Lilian — Mon, 02 Mar 2009 19:41:05 +0000

I´m just loving all these comments! Thanks so much for taking the time to give Mary some insights.
I agree with all of you that if your husband is making the effort to speak in Spanish then it’s best to let him do as best as he can. Your baby has you to learn the correct way to pronounce words, conjugate, etc…The important thing here is that your son realizes that Spanish is the language spoken at home…the language of comfort and love. Lo de más, es lo de menos.
Mary, thanks for sending in your question.

By: Carrie_in_TN

Carrie_in_TN — Mon, 02 Mar 2009 18:16:01 +0000

No hay problema, hermana…Dad’s poor Spanish won’t hurt and if anything, it will show your child that learning another language is important to Dad, and that for some, it takes a lot of work.

I love this question because so many of us are in the same boat — Latinas married to Americans who habla un poquito. My husband knows enough Spanish to get by and get in trouble. Our 5-year-old now corrects him.

I really have been amazed by our daughter’s ability to learn Spanish and to figure out English and Spanish without our having to explain too much. We just talk and she learns.

The trick is continuing to speak Spanish, even if you’re the only one. Our children pick up the rhythms and sounds by hearing us, reading books, playing word games, dancing to fun Spanish music. At our house we do a lot of games around Spanish, like “Veo, veo” and “Que tiene color de …?”

I have struggled to maintain 100% Spanish with my daughter. On many days I fail miserably, but you know what, she’s bilingual. And, I never would have been able to do it without her supportive father, who constantly reminds me: “Hey, espanol!”

(And I have to add, my daughter attends a Spanish immersion pre-school, so there is lots of help there too!)

Good luck to us all.

Excellent post and looking forward to reading more answers.

Carrie_in_TN’s last blog post..Parenting.com: Fathers and daughters

By: Nathalie

Nathalie — Mon, 02 Mar 2009 17:36:13 +0000

I hardly consider myself an expert, but my husband Carlos and I are raising our kids bilingually, Carlos being the flawless Spanish speaker. I know there are some schools of thought that indicate each parent should only speak one language so as not to confuse the kids. That’s not how it is in our home, however. My Spanish is far from perfect, but I think the benefits of my using it far exceed the cons.

1. First, when I use Spanish, my kids are more likely to use it too. It isn’t natural for everyone but me to use Spanish at the dinner table. If I lapse into English, the kids will as well.

2. The more I try to use my Spanish, the more fluent I become. Aren’t there benefits to adults learning new languages too?

3. My attempt to use the language around my kids speaks volumes about how important it is to me that they learn Spanish.

Lately, I’ve been working hard on improving my knowledge of Spanish verbs and their conjugations. Maybe in a few months, I can let you know the results of those efforts

¡Buena suerte!

By: Carla (MamaHeartsBaby)

Carla (MamaHeartsBaby) — Mon, 02 Mar 2009 17:32:17 +0000

I’m in a similar situation. I’m fluent in Spanish and my husband knows a bit. He picked it up in school and spending summers at an international camp with a big population of Mexican kids (he went to the camp starting in his pre-teen years through his teen years). Initially we were going to do OPOL but because we live in a community with very little exposure to Spanish, we’ve decided we’ll both use Spanish and let her pick up English from other relatives and people we encounter everyday.

I was worried at first that he might confuse her but I’ve seen that his own Spanish has improved a great deal by using it more. And beyond just improving his vocabulary and grammar, he has gained a lot more confidence in using the language. Before our daughter, I had to get a few drinks in him to really let loose in Spanish =) Now it comes a lot more naturally.

I think if he’s willing to make the commitment to learn the language and develop his own skills alongside your daughter, then it can’t hurt. But, and I’ve told my husband this, once you say you’re in that’s it – there’s no turning back. It’s actually be very sweet to watch my husband develop his Spanish and be so committed to it. I imagine it’s what it would be like if we all of a sudden moved to Spain or some other Spanish speaking country – my husband would have to immerse himself and that’s the approach we’re taking now. Spanish is the language of our home so we’re all immersing ourselves.

Best of luck to you! The best piece of advice I have is to just trust your efforts. With children it can be hard to tell how much they’re picking up but just trust you are doing it right and one day they’ll just start gabbing away in Spanish =)

Carla (MamaHeartsBaby)’s last blog post..Happy, Shiny Green People