Comments on: Mamá Meltdown

By: When Parenting Gets Tough | SpanglishBaby™

When Parenting Gets Tough | SpanglishBaby™ — Fri, 06 Jul 2012 16:17:43 +0000

[...] there are those days when they test our parenting skills – or lack of – and they take us to limits we honestly dread. We have to be honest and upfront that this happens even to the best and most zen of us. [...]

By: VANESSA

VANESSA — Tue, 15 Mar 2011 19:14:26 +0000

Those are constant when A. you have a son with Bi-polar, B. you your self have add, & c. you have three other kids who need attention.

I try to go joggin as my stress reliever. its my me time with noone just the wind and me usually when the weather is nice I go early in the am before anyone gets up.

And many times after I meltdown me desculpo. and tell the kids I was having a bad time
And those novelas I will look into them at our library.

By: Imperfectly Perfect Parenting | The Digital Latina

Imperfectly Perfect Parenting | The Digital Latina — Fri, 11 Mar 2011 20:20:54 +0000

[...] for real. It doesn’t matter how great of a parent you are, the “Mama Meltdown” can occur but its OK we are only human and no one is [...]

By: BethO

BethO — Thu, 10 Mar 2011 17:34:07 +0000

p.s. Sorry– I don’t know why I said Vanessa except that you two smart ladies have two smart little girls!

By: BethO

BethO — Thu, 10 Mar 2011 15:42:26 +0000

Oh Ana,
You are really giving me flashbacks here.
I believe your Vanessa does understand a lot, whether or not you talk about it, and YOU should think about what you showed her:
a. even when we’re beyond frustrated and angry, we don’t have to hit, or bite, or kick.
b. Mami will make sure you do what you need to do, if it’s important. The world may have its risks and dangers but Mami will not leave you to your own devices or even to your own decisions, before you’re ready.
c. when you have a bad day, or mistakes that make you feel really bad (think: middle school), Mami will “get it”.
d. never give up.
Yes… I’m saying, you did not break her, or dullen her bright little spirit. To the contrary the impact on her will be to make her even more necia, if anything. They really do learn by example. And it’s NOT a bad thing. How many obstacles have you surmounted in life by sheer willpower?
Ok, maybe you were not as suave as you would have liked, but every one of us is a work in progress.
And that broken-hearted feeling YOU had, when you threatened to destroy the blankie– she knows that is how you felt about it. I promise she knows.

By: Ana Lilian

Ana Lilian — Thu, 10 Mar 2011 07:04:31 +0000

Gracias, Marisa!

By: Ana Lilian

Ana Lilian — Thu, 10 Mar 2011 07:03:25 +0000

Oh, no! Not the Barbie train!! It really, really hurts to do it, right? When I went for the blankie I never, ever thought she would give it up just to not give in. I never want to throw her blankie away…that would scar her for sure. Glad Dad came to the rescue.

You are right about the cycle of love and war. Intense love requires intense war?

By: Ana Lilian

Ana Lilian — Thu, 10 Mar 2011 07:01:19 +0000

Thanks, Tara! Means a lot. The crappy inside feeling is the worse. It really did help a lot to write this and to read all the amazing comments. I’m in awe..

By: Ana Lilian

Ana Lilian — Thu, 10 Mar 2011 07:00:25 +0000

I can’t believe you are not watching this novela!

I’m not DVRing it because I’m still in denial that I’m watching it. LOL!

By: Ana Lilian

Ana Lilian — Thu, 10 Mar 2011 06:59:32 +0000

“Pee, butt, poop!” That’s funny..sorry! Actually, C has been repeating those words over and over lately, too.

And,yes…it’s hard being a mom. No doubt.